Cel-e-brate Good Times, Come On!
Hello! Celebrate (NOT celibate) Good Times! COME ON!! Four years ago I published my first blog on My Girlfriend Voice. Yahoo! I am grateful for the opportunity and courage to share my life with you. Later this week I am taking off on a solo trip of a lifetime and during my adventure, I will be reflecting on the stories I have shared with you. I will also invest some time thinking about what may unfold in future posts.
I feel more empowered than ever that my voice is one that has a place in the world and that my voice may help someone; either with a good old fashioned eye roll, a belly laugh or most importantly, lessen their sense of isolation. You are not alone.
So while I am away, enjoy a few of my previous posts. Here is the one that started it all!!
September 1, 2011
One day I was sitting in traffic when I noted that my critical voice must have gone on sabbatical. I was keeping company with a new voice, more comparable to a trusted girlfriend. She is realistic, always supportive and wise. At times, a tad sassy! While I don’t believe I can completely squelch my critical voice, I can minimize her with the banter of My Girlfriend Voice.
Call me crazy, I agree but it is the good kind of happy crazy! Seriously though, what type of info does My Girlfriend Voice affectionately whisper in my ear?
- On receiving feedback on a project: You could take those comments personally or take them seriously. It’s not about you here.
- When the teenager becomes the “mean-ager”: BREATHE This child is trapped in a hormonally laden body and someday you will like each other again.
- After a particularly frustrating day: You ARE good enough just as you are in this very moment. Pause and celebrate your splendid self.
So how did My Girlfriend Voice evolve? I won’t bore you with the details of what I affectionately term my decade of drama or “DD” but let me say that I was continually given more than I thought I could handle. While I manifested a Martha Stewart exterior, my interior was one hot mess. Talk about tumultuous! At the same time, I was approaching the magical period in life where you learn who you are and where your passions reside. Much easier said than done and if you don’t agree, you should stop reading here. We can’t be friends.
Eight years into my “DD”, I hit bottom. Nothing made sense or satisfied me. My sadness loomed larger than any other emotion. I needed help but this power woman would rather walk naked through rush hour traffic than ask for help. Somewhere though, I heard a voice that said “THIS” is bigger than you and you deserve happiness. Viola’! My Girlfriend Voice makes her debut. (BTW, I wanted to spell Viola’ as Wallaaaah but I am a classy woman!)
In time, I learned how to climb out of my darkness. I make better decisions today because of what I learned yesterday. No regrets. No resentment. And yes, I know HOW more importantly, WHEN to ask for help. Don’t be a “hater”! I still have moments of despair and sadness. I have days when I need fat pants……however I have learned that it is equally important to become comfortable with discomfort.
My Girlfriend Voice is not the only thing that I rely on to stay healthy and happy. I begin each day searching for a motivational story and inspirational thought to share with you. On Sunday, I pick a word to focus on for the week. For instance this week I chose the word “resolve”. When I reflect on this word, what will bubble up in my life needing clarity or resolution? Finally, I practice gratitude or rather gratitude and I have become co-dependent!
It is through my blog that I will share my stories and my suggestions for developing your personal Girlfriend Voice. I hope you will join me, or should I say join us. Let’s see what evolves!
From the heart,
PS: My Girlfriend Voice is reminding me that the first blog is the hardest and I should be very proud!