Use Your “Outside” Voice — Question Everything!

While my posts focus on the “inner voice” and managing our critical chatter, today I want to focus on our “outside” voice or how we speak to the world.

In light of the events in Charlottesville, it is critically important to state that I do not support white supremacy or any of their beliefs. It sickens me that there are 917 identified and active hate groups in this country (Southern Poverty Law Center 2017). How is hate a driving force with thousands, actually millions of Americans?

I spent last week observing more than acting. Don’t get me wrong, I am livid. I am sickened, saddened, enraged, threatened and shocked. I felt a shift too.  I came to the conclusion that my angry vile words are not going to do anything but contribute to the problem. Let me explain…….

You lose your power and credibility when you spew hate.  Continue reading

Hello world! Welcome to My Girlfriend Voice

Hello world! Welcome to My Girlfriend Voice

One day I was sitting in traffic when I noted that my critical voice must have gone on sabbatical.  I was keeping company with a new voice, more comparable to a trusted girlfriend.  She is realistic, always supportive and wise.   At times, a tad sassy!   While I don’t believe I can completely squelch my critical voice, I can minimize her with the banter of my new BFF, My Girlfriend Voice.

Call me crazy, I agree but it is the good kind of happy crazy!  Seriously though,  what types of info does my Girlfriend Voice affectionately whisper in my ear?

Examples

  1. On receiving feedback on a project:  You could take those comments personally or take them  seriously.   It’s not about you here.  Don’t take it personally.
  2. When the teenager becomes the “mean-ager”:   Breathe.   This child is trapped in a hormonally laden body and someday you will like each other again. (Been there, believe me!)
  3. After a particularly frustrating day please remember, you are good enough ….just as you are….in this very moment.    Pause and celebrate your splendid self.

So how did my Girlfriend Voice evolve?  I won’t bore you with the details of what I affectionately term “my decade of drama or DD” but let me say that I was continually given more than I thought I could handle.  While I manifested a Martha Stewart exterior, my interior was one hot mess.  Talk about tumultuous!  At the same time, I was approaching the magical period in life where you learn who you are and where your passions reside.  Much easier said than done and if you don’t agree, you should stop reading here.  We can’t be friends. Continue reading