A Gift to My Girlfriends! A free gift that keeps on giving…..and no, it’s not THAT!

gift box mark bredinskiIf there is one thing that I am passionate about it is the importance of SELF-CARE!  With the help of Pianist Daniel Roberts, I created a guided relaxation and I’d like to share it with our Girlfriend community.  Free, from you to me.

Will you consider setting aside 15 minutes for yourself today?  It’s critically important to take care of yourself.  Cortisol and adrenaline, our stress hormones, will return to baseline levels once a perceived threat has passed.  For too many of us though, we live with CHRONIC stress and the “fight or flight” response becomes our standard operating procedure.  Elevated stress hormones interfere with the operation of every single bodily function; especially our cardiovascular system, our immune system, cognitive function and memory.  Chronic stress leads to disease and premature death.

This year I made a commitment to begin my day with quiet time and I sneak in quiet moments as often as possible throughout the day.  It’s when I pause and get quiet that the magic happens!  This is when I tune into the melody I call, My Girlfriend Voice.

Pause. Listen In.  Get in touch with your Breathing.  Enjoy the calm!  Here is the link for the download.       A Guided Relaxation – My Girlfriend Voice     The recording is approximately 12 minutes in length.

Please let me know if you have any difficulty accessing the file! This is an MP3 stored in Google Docs.  You are free to download the file to your device.

I also encourage you to pass this gift along to someone you love.  Enjoy!

From the heart,

Cara

©2011-2017MyGirlfriendVoice

Gift image borrowed from MarkBrodinsky.com

My Pianist collaborator, such a kind human being, can be found at DanielRoberts.com

A Picture is Worth a Thousand Good Feelings!

Last July, I participated in a free Facebook challenge and it wasn’t the ice bucket challenge!!  This was a challenge to “journal artistically” for 30 days.  Based on an email prompt you received daily from Artist Lisa Sonora, you would fill the page with the ideas inspired by the prompt. (getting started with a blank page is often the hardest part so the prompt was really helpful!)  You had complete freedom to do whatever the heck you wanted!  I admit, doing anything on a daily basis is hard, especially something  new AND in an area where you are weak but during July something magical happened.  I got FREE-feeling. I felt the freedom creativity invites in to your brain. Continue reading

Cel-e-brate Good Times, Come On!

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Cel-e-brate Good Times, Come On!

Hello!  Celebrate (NOT celibate) Good Times! COME ON!!  Four years ago I published my first blog on My Girlfriend Voice. Yahoo!   I am grateful for the opportunity and courage to share my life with you.  Later this week I am taking off on a solo trip of a lifetime and during my adventure, I will be reflecting on the stories I have shared with you. I will also invest some time thinking about what may unfold in future posts.

I feel more empowered than ever that my voice is one that has a place in the world and that my voice may help someone; either with a good old fashioned eye roll, a belly laugh or most importantly, lessen their sense of isolation.  You are not alone.

So while I am away, enjoy a few of my previous posts.  Here is the one that started it all!! Continue reading

Hello Gorgeous! Seeing That Voice in my Head

2015-05-27 16.11.35The latest cover of Psychology Today says “Your Inner Voice; How to Talk to Yourself and Why it Matters”.  I feel so validated!  My Girlfriend Voice is my Inner Voice—the positive inner voice—she keeps me safe and sane.  She helps drowned out the cacophony of critical voices ruminating in the back corners of my mind.  Can you believe there was no mention of me in the article?  (LOL- I talk and laugh at myself!  So there!)

One of the key findings in the article is that HOW you conduct your inner monologue influences the success level of the tool.  It says in lieu of using “I”, let your inner voice call you by name, i.e. “Caramia, you need to give yourself the same compassion you give to others.” The work of Dr. Ethan Kross cites that when you personalize the message in this way, there is a higher level of confidence and successful performance. The why of how of his theory is well worth the read. (June 2015 issue) Continue reading

My Own Little Holiday

divorced heartLast fall what I affectionately refer to as my “Un-Divorce” finally became FINAL after a mere seven and a half year process.  Initially I was jumping for joy and popping the bubbly because this Mama was hot to trot and ready to prowl!  By December and contrary to what I thought was “normal”, I felt like I had been hit by a Mac truck.  There were so many emotions seeping to the surface, then like a toddler they were whining for my undivided attention. Darkness surrounded me and I was breathless.  I was speechless.  Why were these emotions surfacing again and so intensely?

I surrendered to my grief. Continue reading

The Right Path

I have been paying attention to My Girlfriend Voice more than ever lately. I needed to slow down, simplify and most importantly, unplug. You may have noticed my absence.

You see, I had a realization. Each and every day, I am overwhelmed with information. I am hungry for information and read articles with titles such as Grounded in Gratitude, The Power of Forgiveness, Living with Compassion and the like….. While I love to search and evaluate new learnings, this process is taking me away from myself and my intuition.

Simplifying is not just how many things I own or how I schedule my time. I am simplifying the information I TAKE IN to my brain. I am simplifying my responses, my OUT PUT.

I have never worked so hard doing less.  I can talk the talk but am I walking the walk? Are my actions in alignment with my words?

My Girlfriend Voice reminds me that all of the answers I need reside within. Once I am quiet, I can hear the music in my breath. I can feel the quiet flow of wisdom in my soul. I can relax into trusting that everything is going to be OK.path

 

“Your mind knows only some things. Your inner voice, your instinct, knows everything. If you listen to what you know instinctively, it will always lead you down the right path.”
Henry Winkler

 

What is your path?  I would love to hear about it.

This photo of Point Reyes, CA is a gift from Heather. Thank you!

From the heart,

CaraW

 

©2013MyGirlfriendVoice