I Hate Wormy Cowards!

Just when I think I have evolved into a spiritual peace dwelling goddess, I hear something that really pisses me off.  Damn, in a few seconds I am playing tug of war with my rational brain to stay engaged and objective while my emotional brain rages.  My heart rate increases and I feel my lips pursing; the sure sign of,  “you’ve got to be kidding me or more likely WTF, what did you just say?”  I think you may be able to relate to my scenario.   Continue reading

Did I Just Say That????

ImageDid I Just Say That????

Dang I can be brillant!  Have you ever have one of those moments, smack dab in the middle of a conversation, where you say something so amazing that you have to pause and write down your own words?  I had one of those recently when chatting with one of my girlfriends!!!

Here is my illuminating moment….. “When it comes to the people in your life, you are either on the same wavelength or you complement one another like Ying and Yang”.  If a relationship requires too much fixing, thinking, wishing, primping, etc., then hey, what’s up?  Why invest so much energy?

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Advice? It’s an Artform.

Advice?  It’s an Artform

ADVICE.  It sounds like a simple topic yet giving and receiving advice is a mine field or should I say MIND field which potentially disables otherwise healthy relationships.

Think back to the last time you received unsolicited advice.  I bet it didn’t feel good regardless of the topic.   As soon as I hear “YOU SHOULD”, my hackles go up.  I stop listening.  It’s like you’re holding my arms down and force feeding me worms.  Stop already!  I am super sensitive to you know-it-all “do gooders” that try to tell me what to do! Continue reading

Hello People, Life is Short

Hello People, Life is Short

“You were the quiet one back then; and perfectly confident. So smart. I thought of you as perfect.”  WHO ME? Are you sure you’re talking about me?  I have no recollection of ever being described this way let alone feeling confident! “Now you are the life of the party, a sexy mama!”  Well….. I guess you ARE talking about me!  Thank you, thank you!

These comments were made last weekend at my 30th high school reunion.   The common denominator is that we grew up in a small town and shared those very long and uncomfortable adolescent years together.  Those were the years when you were supposed to be growing up….LOL.  If only we had known that growing up was a lifelong process!  Continue reading

Pausing for Poise

Pausing for Poise

When I am stressed, I have to organize something.  It used to be my kid’s schedule or the life of a friend—anyone or anything that felt out of control and could use an intervention.  I really liked fixing YOU.  I’ve become more wise and now I organize a drawer, a closet or my giant purse.  No more people—just things.   I’m immediately satisfied when I complete a project.  I have applied my energy to something that actually needs my attention!!!!!!  ……and I swear I hear a tiny “thank you” whispered back in return.

Organizing projects are meditative strategies that calm me down.  While my hands and eyes are busy, I am able to block out the thoughts that plague me.  Is it living in denial?  Maybe, but it’s temporary.  I’m  pausing my reality and giving respite to my brain.

I should elaborate that not all pauses are sitting with crossed legs and closed eyes.  Pausing is a taking a break from a thought pattern.

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Friendship Demystified…..

Friendship Demystified…..

It’s 4pm and I just discovered I have been wearing my shirt backwards all day!  I’m actually pleased.  I’ve turned it around and now the little dribble from lunch rests comfortably out of sight.  By the way, one time I purposely wore my pants backward for a better fit—you can only work with what you’ve got!

There is something about school starting in September that makes me reflect on friendship.  As a kid I was never part of the popular group but I felt blessed to have a core posse of pretty cool gals.  I tried to tell myself that smart was much cooler than popular but as a teenager, I think it is much easier to say than do!  Certainly we know that the QUALITY of a friend is far more important than the QUANTITY but let’s dive a bit deeper.  Here is my attempt to stratify gal pals types into five categories.  (Just a note about me:  I hate long lists.  No one wants to read more than five things.  Who can remember past number five anyway!) Continue reading