Doing Too Much is my Comfort Zone

Hello Girlfriends!  I am curious to know if after you read last week’s blog post, did you give yourself permission to do something differently?  Did you take a step away from your comfort zone?  Even a baby step is a step in the right direction.

I took action and gave myself permission to do something differently.  I took myself out of a leadership role for an event in September.  You see, I like to DO.  I like to GIVE.  The issue is that I can commit to so much activity that I over-do; I over-give.  I exhaust myself.

Doing too much is my comfort zone.

Distraction and numbing techniques can be disguised as the overachieving professional superwoman!  You want me on your team.  You trust me to make things happen on schedule….. BUT……. I pay a price for my diligence because I give more than I get.

There are many times when I have said to friends, “I want to fly under the radar.”  They laugh because they know how hard it is for me to step back and follow.  Even if I don’t speak a word, my energy is LOUD.

 

For a long time I lived in another comfort zone called “anger”.  I was angry at everything, dammit!  In retrospect , I was in love with the power I felt while angry.  I couldn’t access my power unless I was angry.

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The Anger Zone

Thank goodness life kicked my butt.  (Boy did it take a long time to be able to say that!!!)  I stopped “shaming and should-ing” all over myself because when you fall to your knees, you have a choice to remain miserable on the floor or to get up and live differently. It’s your choice.

I am not saying that anger is always a bad thing.  Anger can fuel change.  The danger was that I was far too comfortable living in grimace-ville — I had earned a blackbelt in badass bitchiness!

I’ve graduated to positivity-ville where my power comes from diving into an understanding of who I am and identifying what is important to me.  I love my imperfections, my boldness and my infinite curiosity.  I love my ability to be self-aware and to share my beliefs. I love living in my truth.

My power is tied to my inner voice and my wisdom.  My Girlfriend Voice is present because I make space for her guidance.  I believe in my ability to make good decisions and to weather any storm.  Sometimes I don’t like sitting in discomfort or “adulting”and that is OK. I’m only human!

Finding your voice is finding your power.  Finding your voice doesn’t mean you have to respond.  You can deliberately say nothing or do nothing.  This quiet power is so damn delicious.

Personal power is an infinite resource!

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Plug into Your Power

It takes courage to dive in, doesn’t it?  I didn’t like everything I discovered on my journey to finding myself, however I can expand and leverage the things that I love about myself.

Power.  Does it appeal to you?  Are you plugged in to your power?  Your comments could spark a lively conversation so I’d love to hear your thoughts. Your shares help all of us!

From the heart,

Cara

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5 thoughts on “Doing Too Much is my Comfort Zone

  1. Totally get this! I, too, in the past had to give and give to feel connected and important. I still like to, but have found that it has worn me out and I need to think more deeply before I say yes to something. Always a work in progress.

    On the note of stepping out of my comfort zone, this is something I promised I would do more of this year. It happens periodically and when I get out there into something new, it feels great. New experiences are so beneficial!

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